If you’re unhappy at school, try to make changes there instead of transferring immediately, the author says.
So your first semester wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. I get that. Mine wasn’t either.
During Thanksgiving break of my freshman year, I complained for hours to my parents about how unhappy I was at school. I spent days looking online for another option. I couldn’t wait to come back home for winter break so I could tour campuses and fill out applications.
I’m not sure why I let it happen, but deadlines came and went, and I never ended up applying to another school. Now, I couldn’t be happier.
I now know that I’ve always loved my school; it was the adjustment to college life that was so much harder than expected.
Before you write off a second semester at your school, here are some of the things that helped me realize that I was, after all, right where I wanted to be.
Not everyone finds his or her niche in first semester. People often cling to acquaintances from high school or their roommates so they will feel more comfortable in an unfamiliar university setting. But remember, college is about growing into the person you’ll become for the long term, and that kind of growth often happens when you meet new people. If you haven’t already joined a campus organization, do so. It’s the easiest way to find people with similar interests.
Find a new study spot.
So many first-year students study in dorm rooms, where distractions abound, or at the library, where it’s easy to feel isolated, even in a crowd. By studying somewhere new, like a coffee shop off campus or a pretty spot on campus, you might change your perspective.
Write down one thing each day that makes your school special.
It sounds corny, but this simple act requires you to think about the positives instead of dwelling on the reasons you’re unhappy. When you think in terms of detail, you might realize how much you would miss things like walking through the campus quad on a sunny day or wearing your school colors.
Keep the alternative clear.
I had a fantastic high school experience. For me, the biggest step forward in adjusting to college life was the realization that even if I went back home, high school life was gone forever. Although spending Thanksgiving break with friends back home was great, it ultimately helped me realize that on a typical day, they weren’t at home having fun together either. They were at their own colleges, doing the very same things I was doing, and some of them were missing home, too.
If something is really making you unhappy, change it.
If dorm life is getting you down, start apartment shopping for sophomore year. If you haven’t enjoyed any of your classes, look into picking a new major. There’s no reason to feel stuck on a campus full of options.
Remind yourself why you picked the school that you did.
There’s a reason you enrolled in the school that you’re now second-guessing. Although it might not have turned out exactly as you planned, chances are that reason still exists.
Before you start applications to go anywhere but back in the spring, think extra hard about why you didn’t love your first semester. It might be easier to make a few adjustments than to change your course completely.
College doesn’t always fit like a glove at first. But, you might grow into it.
Hang in there.
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