It is easy to feel like you are going through your grief alone because your family isn’t close by, but you do not have to go through it alone.
The loss of a loved one is never easy.
The loss of a loved one while away at school can be unbearable. You are away from your family, and when you are able to reconnect it is usually only for the funeral. You are left with a few days to mourn before you have to go back to school and figure out how you’re ever going move on. The last thing you want to do is think about the classes you have missed or the assignments you have to make up, but unfortunately you have to. Below are four tips to help you (and your GPA) survive this difficult situation.
1. Talk to your professor.
If you miss class or know you are going to be late on an assignment, talk to your professor. Explain the situation to them. You professor will almost always understand and willingly give you an extension and/or allow you to make-up the work you miss.
However, if for whatever reason your professor refuses to give you an extension or let you make-up missed work, talk to your dean/advisor and they should be able to work something out for you.
2. Take a break.
Now that you have returned to school after being home with your family, you know it is time to get back to work. You have to go class, work, your clubs and sports.
It can be easy to throw yourself back into everything all at once but that does not mean you should. You just lost someone you loved and cared about, and you’re going to need more than just a few days to get past that.
Don’t forget to take some time for yourself. If you need a second to cry, scream or let out your emotions, take time to do that.
3. Don’t become a loner.
Although you may need some time alone to deal, do not spend all your time by yourself. Locking yourself in your room and hiding from the world isn’t going to make you feel better. It will likely make you feel worse.
Go out with your friends and do something fun. You don’t have to go out to a party but get out of your room and spend time with people. See a movie, go bowling or go roller-skating. Try to enjoy yourself. At first you may feel like it is wrong to feel happy but your loved one want would not want you to be unhappy.
4. Develop a support system.
It is easy to feel like you are going through your grief alone because your family isn’t close by, but you do not have to go through it alone. Talk to your roommate, your friends, a trusted adult or anyone with whom you feel comfortable.
Most schools have counselors or chaplains on campus that are there to talk at all hours of the day. Also, call your family. They are the best support system that you can have during this time. Do not be afraid to ask for help. No one should go through a loss alone.
The loss of a loved one is difficult for anyone to deal with. No one will expect you to come back to school ready to jump back into everything and you should not expect that from yourself either. It will be hard to get back into the swing of things but as long as you try, do not give up and surround yourself with people that will support you, you will be fine and you will get through this.
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